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篇一:《与爱人吵架时不该说的话》
与爱人吵架时不该说的话
Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse. Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.
不要说"You always"（你总是）、"You never"（你从不）、"You're a [slob, jerk]"（你是个笨蛋）或者"You're wrong."（你错了）。用"you always"、"you're wrong"这样绝对的说话方式无疑是在玩指责游戏，而谩骂中伤更会让你的伴侣感到无力，这只会迫使他为自己进行辩护，让争吵向更坏的情势发展。我们可以说"I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?"（你又把盘碟留在水槽里让我感到心烦，我们可以做些什么来杜绝这事吗？）用“我”来开头以强调你的感受，而不是为什么他要被骂得很惨，这样会让他更容易接受，进而去解决问题。和恋人吵架的说说。
* to be in the doghouse字面上看就是把一个人放进狗窝，而实际的意思就是失宠或遭受困难。老外是很爱狗的，通常把狗养在家里与孩子一起，当做家庭一分子。如果父母对狗不好，就把狗赶到外面的犬舍（doghouse）里，不准再进家里。所以这个习语后来有一种处分或冷落的意味。和恋人吵架的说说。
Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„" The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.
不要说"If you really loved me, you would..."（如果你真的爱我，你应该„„）你越是用那种好像他从来无法满足你的态度对待伴侣，你越是不会感到满意。通过恳求他做某事来控制伴侣不是建立亲密关系的好方法。我们可以说"I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„"（当你不帮忙做家务时，我有种事情就该我做的感觉，如果我们能„„我会感觉好受些）要避免一场能产生效果的争吵朝一场满口脏话的争吵发展，最好办法就是说清楚你为何不满，然后提出解决方案。
篇二:《与爱人吵架时不该说的话》
与爱人吵架时不该说的话
Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse. Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.
不要说"You always"（你总是）、"You never"（你从不）、"You're a [slob, jerk]"（你是个笨蛋）或者"You're wrong."（你错了）。用"you always"、"you're wrong"这样绝对的说话方式无疑是在玩指责游戏，而谩骂中伤更会让你的伴侣感到无力，这只会迫使他为自己进行辩护，让争吵向更坏的情势发展。我们可以说"I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?"（你又把盘碟留在水槽里让我感到心烦，我们可以做些什么来杜绝这事吗？）用“我”来开头以强调你的感受，而不是为什么他要被骂得很惨，这样会让他更容易接受，进而去解决问题。
* to be in the doghouse字面上看就是把一个人放进狗窝，而实际的意思就是失宠或遭受困难。老外是很爱狗的，通常把狗养在家里与孩子一起，当做家庭一分子。如果父母对狗不好，就把狗赶到外面的犬舍（doghouse）里，不准再进家里。所以这个习语后来有一种处分或冷落的意味。
Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„" The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.
不要说"If you really loved me, you would..."（如果你真的爱我，你应该„„）你越是用那种好像他从来无法满足你的态度对待伴侣，你越是不会感到满意。通过恳求他做某事来控制伴侣不是建立亲密关系的好方法。我们可以说"I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„"（当你不帮忙做家务时，我有种事情就该我做的感觉，如果我们能„„我会感觉好受些）要避免一场能产生效果的争吵朝一场满口脏话的争吵发展，最好办法就是说清楚你为何不满，然后提出解决方案。
篇三:《情侣吵架后的伤感说说》
1、作业没写还会找借口的吼起
2、这世上最累的事情，莫过于眼睁睁看着自己的心碎了，还得自己动手把它粘起来!
3、原谅我和我的固执还在这里等你。
4、有时候，你漫不经心的一句话，就温暖了我整个心房。
和恋人吵架的说说。 5、有了你，我多了一份友谊；有了你!我多了一份快乐；有了你，我多了一份惦记；有了你，我多了一份感情；因为我爱上了你!
6、我总是在安静的时候想得很多然后难受很久
7、我在不该爱的年龄爱上了你以至于现在根本忘不了
8、我累了，不想在再三个人之间挣扎，爱我的人不会让我等那么久，
9、世界上唯一会随着时间的流逝而越变越美好的东西，只有回忆
10、什么都认，不解释因为，没必要。
11、如果有一天我在你视线里消失了，你不要悲伤，12、任何事情都应该去尝试一下，因为你无法知道，什么样的事或者什么样的人将会改变你的一生。情侣吵架后的伤感说说。
13、徘徊在过去，你让我好累。
14、你说要爱我永远，我就在你说的站台，等了你多年；可你却搭上了别人的跑车，改变了约好的路线。街上的霓虹眨着鬼眼，说“永远”早已出卖给了金钱!
15、那是最真的，也是最痛的。
16、那是陷在沼泽，我不堪的爱情，是我无能为力的伤心。
17、累的时候，真想把自己给灭了。
18、即使你是个神话我也做不了你的传说
19、回忆那么重，我怎么背的动
20、黑夜如鬼魅般流淌，你如天使般把我点亮；要问我爱你几许?须发皆白不愿分离。白日如沙漠般无聊，你似那奇葩般惊现；别管世界以后如何，有你今生就不算蹉跎!
21、过去的，点滴我都时刻记在心里的，宝贝我会想你的!!
22、孤独是一种无奈的选择，孤独是因为没有找到合适的同行者，孤独是为了孤独背后的解脱，孤独的过程，就是一个寻找真爱的过程。情侣吵架后的伤感说说。
23、父母忽悠孩子叫教育。孩子忽悠父母叫欺骗。相互忽悠叫代沟。
24、成为你背后那一抹实力暗影。
25、不要轻易把伤口揭开给别人看，因为别人看的是热闹，而痛的却是自己。
26、别让别人徘徊的脚步踩碎你明天美好的梦想，天下没有不散的宴席，也许这人间真的只有朦朦胧胧才是真。
篇四:《超霸气的说说：现在的我你爱理不理，未来的我你高攀不起》
1。 既然世上有女汉子的存在，那是不是有一种生物应该叫男妹子。